The Slippery Slide of Expectations
At this beautiful time of year, with the giving and receiving of gifts – material things, food, and shared time with friends and family – it is especially important to take a look at our expectations. Expectations generally set us up for disappointments and let downs. In fact, the root of all anger is unfulfilled expectations! The secret to true happiness is to let go of expectations. This will put us in a much freer place, as then we can accept whatever others bring to us as exactly what is perfect between us in that moment. If we let go of expectations, we bypass that slippery slope that slides right down into disappointment, fear, sadness and often anger.
You might be thinking, “But don’t I need to have expectations for myself to be successful? Don’t we need to expect certain behavior from our children?” Yes, we do need to hold intentions for ourselves, as energy follow intent and will manifest in our lives if we are clear and steadfast to those intentions. And, yes, we teach children appropriate behavior by setting limits on unacceptable behavior. But, expectations put us into a place of judgement, and judgement interferes with love. Judgement carries the energy of “I’m right, you’re wrong”, which chooses fear over love. We get emotionally attached to our judgements.
We can be discerning of things we like or don’t like without stepping out of love. Discernment is choosing without the emotional attachment of judgement.
So, use discernment to choose the things that bring you joy and open your heart at this time of holiday celebrations. Remember the heart of Christmas is the ultimate gift of God’s unfailing endless love. Let go of your expectations! You will then open yourself to new surprises and unexpected gifts of love that area waiting to flow into your life! Put a note somewhere for yourself as a reminder to “Let go of expectations!” and see how much happier you will be!
We always teach what we need to learn and my family will be happy that I wrote this! Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!